What is counselling?Counselling, sometimes called Talking Therapy, gives people a safe, non-judgemental space in which they can explore their inner world. This can help you to explore your thoughts, feelings and behaviours so you can begin to understand the why behind what you are feeling and/or the why behind your actions then take the steps to change, if this is what you want to do. Sometimes understanding is all that is required.
A counsellor is someone who will not tell you how to resolve your issues, instead they work with you to find the best way of managing the difficulties these present. The work you and your counsellor do is seek out the root causes of your feelings, actions and behaviours which can then lead to processing, healing and management of yourself in a kinder way.
How can counselling help?
This will depend on the person receiving the counselling because each client is unique in how they approach the process. Counselling is best when you work in collaboration with your counsellor, this means you both work together to achieve what it is you want.
The counsellor provides the space for you to say what you want without the fear of judgement; you can be free to explore what you feel is needed to move on. The counsellor may also offer other ways of working. This may be worksheets which help you to focus on an issue and your thoughts around it or creative work allowing you the freedom to express an emotion or feeling which is difficult to put into words.
All that is expected of you, as the client, is that you arrive on time to sessions and embrace the change that happens. It may take a while as counselling is not a quick fix but with collaboration you can begin to heal and move forward once again.
The counsellor is not the expert in your world, you are. You know what hurts and you know what you would like to happen next but sometimes it is hidden until someone helps us to find the way to open that door. Once open a new world is presented and with support you can learn to be in that world, if you so wish, as not all of us is ready for that new world straight away.